How To Stand Up For Yourself

Course Summary

Training Objectives

• This course is designed to help you develop your ability to stand up for yourself and say what you REALLY think and want. Across the board, research has found that being assertive is essential in asserting your own rights and improving relationships.
• On this training course we focus on understanding how you can be more assertive and confident when standing up for yourself. Not only will it benefit your well-being but also help create positive changes in the world around us.
• You'll learn to staying true to your personal values and needs is essential when it comes to standing up for what you think or want. You don’t need extensive subject matter knowledge to have an opinion worth expressing. By learning how to express your opinions, views and core values it allows others to understand who we are and how we operate. Engaging in open conversations helps build mutual understanding while allowing everyone involved express themselves without fear of judgement.

Develop Your Emotional Intelligence

You will learn a set of powerful emotional intelligence communication techniques so that you can manage difficult conversations, handle challenging situations, build relationships and set firm boundaries.

Transferable Skills

The goal of this training is to equip you with the tools they need to build strong, lasting relationships in your professional life, although because these skills are so transferable many clients report vast improvements in their personal relationships as well.

Develop Skills

This is a skills development rather than just a theoretical programme, so the emphasis throughout will be on you taking turn after turn, practising your skills, while receiving feedback and coaching about your effect on others.

Repeated Practice and Feedback

In your coaching sessions you will be helped to practise dealing with the kinds of situation you find challenging, again and again, until you are confident you can do it successfully.

Video Analysis

We'll combine practical, hands-on experience with video replay and analysis and discussion of the principles involved to help you gain both skills and understanding. Special attention is paid to your individual training needs, so you can practise your skills in real-life situations that you have to handle at work.

Sustained Change

That's why as well as your place in a small group, this training includes a generous amount of private and confidential one-to-one coaching sessions online, spread over several months, ensuring an exceptional level of support. This will ensure the changes you make are sustained over a longer period of time and any obstacles are overcome. Choose between online training available worldwide, or in-person face-to-face courses in the UK.

Course Dates and Price

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Free Initial Session

This initial coaching session serves as an introduction to the "Skills with People" course, allowing you to understand the course's relevance and effectiveness for your specific needs before committing to it.

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Tips for Standing Up for What You Think or Want

To help you confidently stand up for what you think or want, remember to stay true to your values and own needs, express your opinion without feeling the need to be an expert in the subject matter, engage open conversations where possible and be aware of how standing up might impact on your mental health. This is obviously easier said that done. Practive helps. Contact us if you'd like some support.

Stay true to your values and your own needs

• Staying true to your values and needs is essential when it comes to standing up for what you think or want. Knowing what self care is and honouring your personal core values allows you to better understand yourself, what motivates you and how others may be affecting your life.
• This can provide a sense of purpose in life while paving the way towards increased self-confidence.
• For example, if someone wants more money at work but holds respect as their top value, jumping in with an aggressive request could compromise that core belief. Aligning yourself with your own goals and boundaries creates authenticity while helping protect against feeling like a victim or being taken advantage of in tricky situations.
• Living authentically also translates into letting go of fear - instead consciously making choices that grow from strength over fear as well as allowing space for essential compromise where necessary.

You don't have to be the subject matter expert to have an opinion

• When it comes to feeling comfortable expressing yourself and standing up for what you think or want, it's important to remember that you don't have to be an expert in any given field.
• Self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and restraint are all important qualities when it comes to asserting your beliefs and opinions - these skills can be developed without needing extensive knowledge on a particular subject.
• For example, when debating with people who have formed opposing views from yours, being mindful of your feelings is more effective than trying outsmart them with facts and figures. You can say, "I really like this idea because ...", or "I'm worried about your suggestion, because ..."
• There are countless situations where having the courage to express what matters most - regardless of how others may respond - can make a significant difference in maintaining self-respect while also creating change.
• The same applies when advocating for something that needs attention even if you’re not “qualified” enough — at least according to some critics ― as long as there’s a good understanding behind why speaking up is necessary regardless of qualifications.

Express your feelings, views and core values

• Standing up for what you think or want starts with expressing your feelings confidently and respectfully. Not only will this ensure that you are heard, it can also improve the quality of relationships with those around you.
• Expressing your feelings, views and core values allows others to get a better understanding of who you are an how you operate - whether in personal relationships, public settings or at work.
• Additionally, speaking up for yourself in challenging or hostile situations helps build strength and self-confidence while creating positive changes both internally and externally. Remeber, you are the world's best authority on how you feel. Nobody else can tell you you're wrong.
• Recognising your personal boundaries is key when standing up for what you think or want as it encourages respect from both yourself and other people. Speaking authentically about who we are without worrying about consequences helps us grow emotionally. This can lead to increased acceptance from others, which can lead to greater success overall.

Engage in open conversations

• Open conversations are a key step in the process of standing up for what you believe or want. Conversations allow us to foster understanding with each other and build relationships through supportive dialogue.
• Open conversations also enable us to share our ideas and opinions, which is essential when standing up for your beliefs as they give people a chance to understand what we stand for, while giving us an opportunity to explain our thoughts more clearly, leading potentially productive outcomes.
• It is important that during these conversations, we utilise empathy, and active listening skills such as asking open-ended questions that show interest and attention without dominating the conversation — letting the other person take the lead while still making sure your voice is heard.
• This enables everyone to communicate better and can help people reach an agreement on any decisions or actions taken as part of their respective needs or desires being expressed.
• Making statements in complete sentences not only suggests control but shows respect from one party towards another about how seriously we take each other’s opinion into consideration - regardless of how divergent it might be from our own view point.

Be aware of your mental health

• It is essential that you maintain a healthy mental state when standing up for what you think or want. Mental health consists of our psychological, emotional and social well-being. A good sense of mental health can boost your self-esteem, allow better communication to take place when negotiation or conflict arises and give us the self assurance we need to express ourselves without fear.
• Similarly, it also gives us the energy and resilience necessary in order to stay in control during difficult conversations where emotions may run high. When we recognise our own feelings and remain mindful of them as well as those around us, relationships are fostered on mutual respect allowing the individual feel secure within themselves first before others step into their domain of influence.
• Small practices such as mindfulness, regular activities like yoga or meditation can help achieve balance whilst pregnant yourself with knowledge regarding your personal boundaries will all help create an environment best suited for asserting oneself with confidence and clarity without compromising important life values desired by each person making their journey through this wonderful world one rock at a time!

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 Setting Boundaries to Support Standing Up for What You Think or Want

It is important to set boundaries so that you can assert yourself and have ways to stand yourself up for what you think or want—read more to find out how!

Clearly define your boundaries

• When standing up for what you think or want, it is important to establish boundaries. Boundaries ensure that you are taking into consideration both your needs and the needs of those around you.
• They provide a clear indication of what is acceptable or appropriate behaviour and set limits on how far certain things can be pushed. Understanding and setting personal boundaries helps support individuals to meet their own needs better and maintain emotional well-being.
• For example, if people don’t respect your physical space when conversing with them, then asserting your need for more distance would help in protecting yourself from feeling overwhelmed or uncomfortable during such conversations while still providing an opportunity for effective communication.
• Clearly defining boundaries communicates respect from other people in regards to wishing not to breach those lines without prior approval — thus encouraging mutual understanding between parties involved.

Communicate your boundaries effectively

• Establishing and communicating your personal boundaries is an important life skill. It means expressing your own values, rights, and beliefs in ways that prevent others from taking advantage of you or pressuring you into things you don't want to do.
• When it comes to effective communication techniques for expressing boundaries, the first step is understanding what they are, as well as the importance of being clear when communicating them verbally or non-verbally.
• Active listening is essential for understanding another person's point of view while respecting their feelings and setting appropriate boundaries without becoming confrontational. Nonviolent communication techniques can also be used during interactions with others; this involves describing how one feels using 'I' statements rather than blaming or attacking someone else which increases chances of mutual respect throughout the conversation.

Reinforce boundaries through consistent actions

• It is essential to reinforce boundaries through consistent actions for a healthy and successful relationship with anyone. Setting clear boundaries and expressing them calmly and clearly, without blaming or over explaining, allows others to know how you expect to be treated.
• This builds understanding of one another’s expectations, helping them understand what is important for you in this relationship. Sticking with your decisions not only shows strength but also lets the other person that they cannot easily push past reality; facilitating stronger relationships between parties involved by teaching people how to make interactions pleasant.
• By setting boundaries consistently over time, people learn when it’s safe to cross lines or approach certain subjects/topics – ultimately encouraging respect towards each other.

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Developing Effective Communication Skills for Standing Up

Through mastering techniques such as active listening, clear and concise expressions, non-violent communication techniques and handling conflicts constructively, you can build your assertiveness to make sure that your voice is heard.

Active listening

• Active listening is a powerful tool that can help you stand up for what you believe in. Effective listening entails more than simply hearing what someone has to say; it involves demonstrating a genuine interest in understanding the speaker’s point of view and actively engaging with them while they’re talking.
• It requires full focus on the other person, and the ability to provide respectful yet thoughtful feedback or commentary upon their statements. By practicing active listening, individuals can become better communicators by avoiding misunderstandings and building stronger relationships through mutual understanding and respect.
• Apart from being used in personal relationships, active listening also plays an important role in professional settings. For example, managers who practice active listening will be better equipped to understand the concerns of their employees and come to mutually beneficial decisions without using aggression or coercion.
• When people are heard and respected they are able to express themselves more freely which makes it easier for others to understand where they are coming from - something essential when dealing with difficult situations or conversations involving strong emotions such as anger or hurt feelings.

Clear and concise expression

• Being able to communicate clearly and concisely is an important part of standing up for what you think or want. It enables others to understand your words and point of view, without confusion or misinterpretation.
• Expressing yourself in a clear and concise way also helps set boundaries so that people understand which requests are acceptable and which are not. Clarity is also essential because it prevents long-winded conversations from taking over – if you have something important to say, make sure that everyone knows exactly what you mean! Concision is another critical element – when standing up for what we believe in, the shorter our message, the more impactful it will be.
• Being brief gives us time to go into greater detail on items that are most relevant rather than going off onto tangents irrelevant to our core sentiment. By being clear and applying the 7 Cs of communication (clear, concise, concrete, correct, coherent , complete & courteous) we can express ourselves effectively with confidence while making sure our needs and wants are understood by others.

Nonviolent communication techniques

• Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a communication process founded by Marshall Rosenberg that emphasises the importance of understanding and expressing your own needs, as well as connecting to those of others.
• NVC focuses on compassion, empathy, active listening and speaking with honesty in order to increase self-awareness and foster mutual connection in relationships. NVC utilises four steps: Observing without evaluation, Expressing feelings without blame or criticism; Stating needs non-judgementally; Making requests rather than demands.
• Through this approach we can identify our own values and needs while also considering the perspectives of other people involved. With the aid of nonviolent communication principles it is possible to build stronger relationships based on trust respect for individual boundaries.

Handling conflicts constructively

• When it comes to conflict resolution, handling conflicts constructively is paramount. This requires assertive communication as well as empathy and non-judgment, along with open body language.
• Assertive communication involves using direct but respectful language, a calm tone of voice, and confidence in expressing yourself and your own needs. To promote constructive conversations between all parties involved in the conflict situation, it is important to remain empathetic while considering different perspectives without becoming judgemental about them or feeling too defensive.
• Active listening also plays an important role here for both sides of a conversation; having clear expectations from the discussions gives everyone involved a better understanding of each other's perspectives.

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Dealing with Reactions and Consequences

It is important to be prepared for various reactions and consequences that you may face when standing up for your beliefs or desires, such as conflict with others, resistance or criticism.

Handling negative responses

• When standing up for what you think or want, it is important to develop the capacity to handle negative responses in an effective manner. It can be helpful to recall why you are doing this - perhaps it's because of your own values, needs, and self-respect.
• Remember that feedback from others should be taken as a learning opportunity and not necessarily something personal or damaging. When faced with criticism or resistance consider if there are underlying causes that need addressing such as fear of confrontation, intimidation tactics, defensiveness etc., before responding calmly but firmly.
• Tips for dealing with difficult situations include avoiding aggressive language while still being true to yourself; asserting your boundaries through consistent action; and actively seeking support when needed.
• Dealing with negative responses does not have to mean feeling guilty about speaking up; improving communication skills is essential if people are going to learn how they can better stand up for themselves without causing conflict unnecessarily.

Managing potential conflicts

• It is important to remember the importance of open communication and active listening when managing potential conflicts. It is equally crucial to try and find a constructive resolution between opposing parties, rather than one which simply appeases both sides.
• The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument identifies five styles of conflict management: accommodating, avoiding, compromising, collaborating, and competing. By understanding these different strategies for conflict resolution it can be easier to identify how best to address a disagreement in an effort to reach a mutually beneficial outcome that all involved can accept without feeling overly compromised.
• Having effective conflict management skills can help an individual or organisation in nearly any situation where disputes may arise as they provide clear methods on how to handle potentially challenging circumstances with poise and integrity.

Navigating the aftermath of standing up

• Standing up for what you believe in is not easy and can involve a range of emotions from fear and anger to guilt, confusion and disappointment. After standing up comes the need to navigate the aftermath — building resilience, handling negative responses or criticism, managing potential conflicts and trying to protect your mental health.
• It's important to understand that there is no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to navigating these challenges. Depending on the situation you may find yourself dealing with different reactions, outcomes or consequences.
• Recognising and accepting difficult emotions helps build willpower in order to respond accordingly instead of taking an aggressive stance that will only increase tension further. Developing effective communication skills such as active listening also helps in navigating opposing views or opinions without increasing conflict levels.
• Being aware of your own self worth by practising self belief can help reduce feelings of anxiety associated with standing up for what you think or want too — Harvard psychologist Susan David has identified phrases such as 'I matter', 'I am enough' as helpful tools for maintaining emotional wellbeing even when presented with ridicule or bullying behaviour from others in response.

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FAQs

1. What do I need to stand up for what I think or want?

In order to stand up for what you think or want, it is important to have a clear sense of self-esteem and know how to reflect on yourself without feeling guilty or scared.

2. How can I make sure people respect me when I stand up for myself?

Eight ways that one can make sure they are respected include avoiding confrontation, making eye contact, using appropriate body language, staying quiet and never apologising if the wrong thing has been done by someone else.

3. How do most people react when facing difficult situations?

Most people tend to shy away from confrontation in difficult situations either to avoid confrontation, by staying quiet or pretending such issues don't exist - which effectively makes no change.

4. Are there any effective techniques that help me avoid being a 'people pleaser'?

Yes; Being aware of your thoughts and feelings while paying attention to others needs can be helpful in avoiding being someone who seeks approval from others all the time thus escaping the ‘people pleaser’ trap this creates . Practicing active listening techniques also helps gain clarity about oneself amidst other circumstances as well as one’s decision making process about any given action .

5. Is practice essential for standing up for what you believe in ?

Yes. Practice does indeed make perfect – creating an environment close interiors where different perspectives are discussed openly taking into consideration various courses of action both parties decisions etc., go a long way in preparing oneself before deciding whether standing up should be considered at all an which course of action could best favour them.

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